Quick Race Bites


On Ferguson and the killing of people of color by white police officers:

I am surprised, with all that’s been talked about with this issue for decades, at the language we use to discuss this. I would offer one simple adjustment to our thinking, which would potentially get us to finally address the issue at its source. We have a way of talking about this as in the passive tense rather than the active tense. I heard students at one of my recent visits to a college talk about how “I am in danger because of the color of my skin.” This is not true, you are in danger because of the mindset of the culture and mentality and actions of other people. The burden is not on you. It is on them. You are not being killed (passive tense), people are killing you (active tense). You can’t stop the passive tense, you can only stop the active tense. Stop the killing—then people will stop being killed.


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My take differs from Ayo’s take 


On “black•ish” (the TV Show): 

I had reservations about this show and I was not overly impressed with the first episode. The writers did an okay job, good enough to give them more air time though.  I didn’t feel the problem was a twisting of identities. The show is about mixed identity and that’s what makes it interesting.


On movies about painful parts of Back History: 

I totally feel Ayo on her point here. I can relate because I can’t stand watching videos of people  getting hurt, whereas many seem to love watching those videos. I also don’t like horror movies. And because I’m aware of people’s sensitive feelings and that painful news can trigger remembering other painful events, I try to limit painful news and painful history on my personal Facebook page. However, because it’s important to know the truth of current events and history I do post about painful news and history on some of my social media. I segment what I post. I put oppressive stuff on my Oppression Monitor social sites and more positive or neutral posts on my Community Village social sites.


On “Dear White People” and Movies like it: 

I thought I was not going to love this movie based on some of the previews I saw. However, the acting, directing, cinematography, lighting, hair, wardrobe and story as a whole were all excellent! And it’s a good movie to open discussions on fraternity segregation compared to housing segregation. Fraternities like to be grouped by common interests, whereas segregated housing off campus is highly problematic. This movie could also prompt great blog posts about interracial dating, interracial marriage, identity framing, society response to interracial dating / marriage and family response to interracial dating / marriage.


On “How to Get Away with Murder” and the “make-up and wig moment”: 

I completely agree with Ayo. This scene was genius.


Black Friend Connect

Black Friend Connect
Black Friend Connect

Apparently “Black Friend Connect” is a real business started by African American Harvard graduate Jerome Smith. He is interviewed in the video below.

He describes it as an entertainment website where they hire Black actors to play the role of friend to white people. I’m not sure if they offer the service to non-white people, which would surely be a racist business model #smdh and not lol :/

At first I was sure this was a joke, and tears were in my eyes as I tried to stop from laughing hysterically while at work. The more I looked at the site the more legit it looked. After listening to the interview below, I guess it’s really a real business.

The founder explains that they do background checks on both the actors and on the people seeking friends.

Now listen, instead of laughing, just the idea that this is a real business should give us a reason to cry in despair due to the segregation and xenophobia that are both still rampant in the U.S.

When you listen to the interview below, you are gonna trip.  You will fall out laughing at some parts, and you will be questioning  how can the U.S. still be so segregated in 2013.

Put These Combat Boots Away | Damali Ayo

See on Scoop.itMixed American Life

“I was taught early on that whiteness, inside or outside of me, was dangerous.

That pain came not only from the presence of racism, but from my personal investment in it.

since I had stopped looking for racism around every corner, I hadn’t experienced any.

As a woman who had been trained to be racially paranoid before I could read, it was a freedom I had never felt.

Accepting myself as multiracial requires a great deal of forgiveness, and I was pleasantly surprised to find a well of forgiveness within me ready to tap. The truth does that, it opens up stores of forgiveness that cannot be accessed when it is being repressed. I found myself forgiving my family, forgiving myself, forgiving both white and black people, and forgiving of all of my ancestors. Talking to a friend I heard myself say, “One group of my ancestors (English) enslaved another group of my ancestors (Africans) and murdered another group (Native American). (As far as I am aware the Italians are in the clear). I am ready to be at peace with that.”

This blew me away.

I am ready to be at peace.

I have to be at peace. I spent too many years in the angst of a deception, staring at my truth in the mirror and obscuring it through the tools of anger, paranoia, and fear, trying to prove to everyone else that I exist within their parameters. Now I choose to look in the mirror and see a miracle of history, the dissonance and conflict that led to who I am can exist in a happy person, and maybe one day, in a happy culture.”

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Counting People of Color | Damali Ayo

See on Scoop.itCommunity Village Daily

“I went through a phase where anytime I was in a crowd, I counted the number of people of color– out loud so whomever I was with could hear me. Eventually my friends started doing the same thing. Then they started noticing the dearth of people of color in situation after situation, then in their own lives, and then…they realized they had to change that.” -Damali
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